Recently I did a post on my blog goals for 2018 and I thought – personal ones are just as important, why not write about those too? So here we have a note to self of things I’d like to achieve / improve on in 2018.
One of my biggest goals is to read more! I read a lot anyway because I’m an absolute bookworm and it’s one of my favourite things to do, but I know that if I just put that little bit of extra time aside then I could easily get a lot more books in. I also want to branch out with the genres I’m reading and read more about feminism, sexism, self help – enlightenment etc. The knowledge that books can give you is invaluable and I definitely need to embrace this as much as I can!
Go to art galleries / museums
Again with the educational thing – I need to expand my horizons! Apart from on school trips when I was younger, I’ve never been to art galleries or museums (where I’m old enough to actually appreciate what’s on show anyway) and so I’d love to do more of this – maybe buy some art books and just generally walk around taking pictures and notes. Definitely something I’d love to start doing in 2018.
Being able to travel is one of the greatest privileges in the world and if I put my mind to it, I could definitely give it a go! Whether it’s just a few hours away from where I live or on the other side of the world, I need to surround myself with new locations, new scenery, people, culture etc. It’s one of the greatest ways to be inspired – not to mention the amazing photographs I could get from it!
Stop relying on other people for happiness
My life used to revolve around this idea until about 6 months ago when I finally was able to actually start implementing it on my life (I talk about it more in depth here). I need to stop relying on others for happiness! In 2018 I truly want to live for myself and stop putting my happiness in the hands of others, especially those who have no intention of doing anything good with it. If you put your happiness in the hands of other people it means that it can be snatched away just as quickly as it was given, and you don’t need that! It’s stability or nothing.
Stop waiting on other people before you allow yourself to do the things you want to
Again, ties in with the above point (I write about it more in depth here). This goes for most things – if I want to go and watch something at the cinema but no one else wants to see it with me, why wait until I find someone who does? Go anyway! If I want to go somewhere or do something I need to stop waiting around on other people and just do it (Shia Labeouf echoes in background). There are so many opportunities and chances I’ve missed in the past because I’ve foolishly waited around on other people – we’re getting rid of this mentality In 2018!
Note to self Chlo – boys suck. They mess you around, lie to you, stress you out and make you sad – so stop bothering with them. You know that a boy isn’t what you’re looking for, so don’t even entertain it – sure, if someone wonderful comes along and shows you that they do genuinely care about you then of course go for it, but otherwise, stay away. Boys are a problem, and you don’t need any of those.
Be happy with yourself
I’m very aware that this is easier said than done however, I think I’m on my way! Which is amazing because I’ve never been able to say that before, but now I think I’m getting there. I’m 100% unapologetic for who I am, I stand up for what I believe in even if that means I lose a few ‘friends’ along the way, if someone says something that isn’t right I call them out on it, I’m finding my sense of style and just basically not caring about what others think. It’s obviously an extremely long and ongoing process however, I think I can officially say I’ve started the journey – so here’s to continuing that in 2018!
Take more photos of yourself and have them taken of you – Start using Instagram more
This might be a silly one but I’m extremely insecure about the way I look due to disordered eating, anxiety, body dismorphia and all that great stuff, but I’m slowly getting better with it. I want to take more selfies (and be happy with said selfies) and also be comfortable with other people taking pictures of me – candids and photos that someone else has taken in general are always my favourite, so I’d love to just be able to do things like ask my mum to take a picture of me if I’m wearing an outfit I feel good in, or just in general if I go somewhere and think yeah, I want a picture here! I love Instagram and I used to be an avid user of it back when I was 16/17 but then my mental health got so bad I was like nope, and I’d end up posting 1-2 photos a year if that – and they definitely wouldn’t be selfies. I want to start using Instagram more not only because I have this blog but also for myself, I need to stop worrying so much!!
Stop worrying about what other people think
This one ties in with the above but STOP GIVING A CRAP ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK CHLOE. IT’S IRRELEVANT. Other people’s opinions of me are none of my business and it shouldn’t affect me because I should be comfortable enough within myself to know who I really am, and nothing else should matter. I know I’m a good person, I dream and romanticise everything and I’m thoughtful and caring and kind and I would do anything for my friends and family and all I ever want to do is spread love and positivity – so why should I care if someone who doesn’t even know me has a different opinion? Also, if I want to wear something that I know other people may look at and be like “…..” – why should I care? Is it on their body? Is it affecting them? No. I’m expressing myself – if I want to wear flared trousers instead of skinny jeans then I will, so fuck off basically. I don’t care if you don’t like it, I do. Next.
Wear what you want to wear and redo your wardrobe
Again this ties in with the above – where what you want to wear Chloe!! How many times have I stood in front of the mirror, wanted to wear an outfit and thought no people will think that’s ridiculous, put the outfit back in the wardrobe and then continued to wear my ‘safe’ clothing options. No more. 2018 is the year for wearing whatever the hell I want and feeling confident enough to pull it off. I also need to redo my wardrobe because even though I like all of the clothing items in there, they’re not my style basically. I need to revamp the whole thing and buy things I know are me.
So there are all the main goals (that I can think of right now) that I’d love to achieve / improve on in 2018. What are yours? Let me know loves!
All my love,