life begins outside of your comfort zone

Hello you lovely lot,

As you can tell by the title of this post, today we’re going to be talking about comfort zones – more importantly anxiety, and how much I’m trying to get rid of it.

Now, I could go all serious on you and write a deep insightful post about anxiety and the way in which it’s affected my life and yada yada, but I wanted to keep this one a little more upbeat. I’m actually feeling super happy and inspired right now (whenever Zoe uploads a vlog I get so motivated and happy) so that’s the current situation right now. In this vlog she recently uploaded she literally does a 7 minute intro talking about anxiety which I always find so helpful because it really allows me to kind of sit down with myself and think about the same things too. She speaks about a quote from The Greatest Showman that has really stuck with her, and it’s “comfort is the enemy of progress.”

Comfort is the enemy of progress.


Okay, you get the idea. I’ll stop shouting.

Anyway, this whole thing is weird because recently I’ve actually been making myself just get a grip on life, basically. Like I said, I don’t want to turn this post all serious but long story short, anxiety stops me from doing everything. Everything. There’s so many things I’ve wanted to do in life that I haven’t because my stomach feels like it’s going to fall out of my mouth and my brain is screaming at me NO NO NO NO. I feel like I’ve had anxiety since I came out the freaking womb, I don’t remember a time in my life where I didn’t have it – I didn’t even know it wasn’t normal until I realised that everyone else didn’t feel the same way and in fact, my brain was just being super unkind to me. Thanks brain.

Lately, as Shia Labeouf would so beautifully put it, I’ve been learning to just do it. Stop thinking about it, stop building it up in your head and just do it. The less time you have to think, the less time you have to worry and freak yourself out about the whole thing. 99.9% of the things that I’m scared out of my mind for always end up being completely fine once they’re over and then I just sit there thinking to myself…that whole thing was fine…I just worked myself up for a week and couldn’t physically eat anything because I was so nervous and the whole thing has literally just turned out fine. It was fine. I enjoyed it. I didn’t die, nothing bad happened and I actually enjoyed it, in fact, I want to go back and do it again.

So why was I so worried??

Screw you brain, you are not going to rule my life anymore and make me feel like I’m literally going to die doing anything outside of my comfort zone.

You know what comfort is? Boring. There’s two types of comfort – physical comfort where we’re snuggled up in bed with our pets surrounded by blankets and pillows watching our favourite movie and knowing there’s no where else we’d rather be. We like that kind of comfort.

The second type of comfort is the comfort we don’t like, which is staying in the same job, the same place, not wearing what we want to, not doing the things we want to and instead doing the same thing every single day because we’re so terrified of stepping outside of our comfort zone in case the sky falls in on us and we end up somehow magically dying and forever regretting the choice we made, which, spoiler alert – is never going to happen. 

Stepping outside of your comfort zone is the best thing you can do for yourself and for your own personal progress – you won’t know until you try it. There’s a quote that says “if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always got” and that pretty much sums it all up right there, if you want to carry on living an unfulfilled, monotonous and repetitive life, keep doing what you’re doing! If you want to actually feel alive and like you’re living – step outside of your comfort zone! Dip your toe in the water and see how it feels – don’t think about it, just do it. I promise you won’t regret it.

Life begins outside of your comfort zone, make sure you don’t miss it.

All my love,

Chloe .xx

30 thoughts on “life begins outside of your comfort zone

  1. I totally relate to this as well. It’s nice to know I’m not alone when it comes to the anxiousness about wanting to try new experiences but feeling so limited! Also, in LOVE with your blog – you’re very inspiring! 🙂

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    1. So glad you can relate – even though it’s not so nice, like you said, it’s still comforting to know you’re not alone in feeling that way. & Thank you so much lovely, you have no idea how much that made me smile!! 💛 xx


  2. I saw Zoe’s vlog too the other day and that quote really inspired me!! I think about it nearly every day and it’s just so true and you can apply it to everything!
    I’m quite good at trying new stuff and getting out of my comfort zone, the problem is just that I overthink everything before and after. I start to worry about it until it happens and afterwards I’m exhausted because I kept stressing myself. Thanks for sharing this! xx

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    1. Me too! I overthink things so much that I talk myself out of them, these days I’m learning to literally just get on with it before I have time to overthink! You’re welcome lovely, thank you for reading xxx

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  3. I really relate to this. I get extreme social anxiety in so many situations and this makes me feel less alone, so thank you for sharing. It’s always interesting to hear other people’s experiences with these things. Getting out of my comfort zone is something I’ve been blogging about lately too, funnily enough haha xx

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  4. Ohmygosh YESSS…I never got this for the longest time, that where I’m comfortable is not always the same as the place where I can truly be the best version of myself. Comfort zones were made to move outside of lol XOXO

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  5. This is so true and I really loved this post so much ❤️ I’m struggling lately because I’m afraid of searching for a job and I just don’t know how to it while having anxiety 😢I understand your point and I know so much how I struggled with everything in my life and at the end it’s no big deal. I hope I will get over it one day… Sometimes I miss out of opportunities because of not stepping outside of my comfort zone. You are just so right. We grow as a person outside from it. Thank you for this beautiful post 💜

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    1. Are you seeing someone about your anxiety lovely? It can be really daunting but the thought is always worse than the thing itself. I hope you can work through it too and remember I’m always here if you ever need me 💜 you are so welcome and thank you for reading, as always xxx

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  6. I love this so much. I’ve been struggling recently with my comfort zones and trying to break out of them. I’ve spoken about it before but my home is my happy place and I’ll pick it over anything. I constantly turn down social plans pretending I’m already busy just so I can go home and be around my home comforts. I think some people view me as being a really boring person, when actually I just find it really hard to get out and socialise (as silly as that sounds). I’m actually going to a social event this evening that I was sure I was going to cancel on, but reading your post this morning has given me the boost to go – thank you xx

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    1. Thanks angel – I totally agree, home is my happy place and I feel so comfortable there, the thought of leaving it makes me anxious which in turn makes me think…why am I going to do that to myself? But I have to remember that I need to get out of my comfort zone and push myself to do things, even if they’re only small – a little progress is better than none. I really hope everything went well for you and I’m so glad this post could help you in some way. Lots of love xx

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  7. I love this post and I relate to it so much. I overthink every aspect of my life and can spend days worrying about an event which actually turns out to be fine. It’s something I’m working on because I don’t want to live my life worrying! Xx

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  8. CHLOE YES YES YES YES. Girl I am so proud of you – your comfort zone is the smallest fraction of the world and all your future favourite memories are just outside it! Can’t wait to hear about all the awesome things you’re going to get up to xx

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  9. I love how you said it’s like you had it in the womb because that’s how I feel. When I started working on makeup counters, I was forced to traffic stop and speak to customers. I would have to keep giving myself little pep talks beforehand because I found it so daunting.
    I think my anxiety has improved greatly with age. Once I got past 21, I started to think f**k it a lot more. And I just remind myself that life is short – I know so cheesy! Love reading this beautifully well written post! xx

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    1. For sure – it feels like I’ve never known life without it, you know? Which is why it took me so long to realise that actually, I shouldn’t have been feeling that way. The thing about 21 – I definitely feel like it’s an age thing too in that sense, as you get older you realise to just say screw it a lot more and actually get out there and do things, like you said – life is so short! Thanks for reading lovely xxx

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  10. This is such a great reminder for all of us, whether we have high or moderate anxiety. Taking chances and just saying screw it, I’m going to do it even if I throw up all over the place has been so great for expanding my horizons and experiences. Another great post 🙂

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  11. Good luck! I was the same in that I didn’t realise I had anxiety until I was 14/15 because I thought it was normal and just a bit on the shy side. But now that I acknowledge that I have anxiety, I can start to face it and work with it to help better my life. I hope that you can do the same. xx

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  12. I relate to this so, so much. I tend to have overwhelming anxiety in social situations which holds me back from a lot of things. I feel like I missed out a lot because of it. It’s time I will never get back, experiences that could have gone very differently. Like you said, the only way to conquer comfort zones is by defiantly stepping out of it as often as possible. As soon as I realize my anxiety is making a decision, not me, I try to do the opposite. Go against that anxious “instinct”. And you know, it’s a process I’m still working on. I think it always will be and I’ve decided that that’s completely and utterly okay. Such a brilliant post Chloe! xx

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    1. Yes, exactly! You completely get me as always. It’s time that you’ll never be able to get back and in the grand scheme of things life is so short and I can’t help but feel like I’ve wasted so much of it already, I tell myself I’ve still got time – which I do – but I can’t keep telling myself that forever because one day it will eventually run out. Thanks for reading lovely xxx

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