not so deep (chatty)

a brief inquiry into online relationships

Some people have really intricate minds and I love hearing about their views and opinions on everything, Matthew Healy is one of them. He understands what it is to be human and he inspires me to continue being that way, too.


I think I kind of want to take my art now in the direction of the fact that essentially, we’re all living through social media, never coming up for air. Everyone’s glued to their phones worrying about how many likes and followers they can get on things that don’t even exist in the real world. The world we’re living in isn’t even real because the internet isn’t real. If it shut down today that would be it, and all this time you’ve wasted would be for nothing. Everyone feels so dull and boring, everyone feels the same. Everyone looks the same way and says the same things and no one wants to be real or honest or emotional because what a huge meme that would be and how uncool would it be to actually show the world you’re a real person. I feel like I’m living in a simulation where everyone is a robot and I’m the only person with the ability to cry anymore. Like hello, are you real?? Is anyone actually inside that mind of yours? Do you feel things the way I do or are you numb? You’re talking but you’re not saying anything and I don’t know why. I worry that I don’t connect with people anymore but for once in my life I don’t think I’m the problem. It’s weird. It’s crazy. I don’t understand it and maybe I never will. It’s a lifetime you’ll never get back because you never lived in the moment and allowed yourself to feel something, you just sat on Instagram hoping your newest selfie would reach 100 likes, but at the end of the day you’re still empty.

Are you made of stardust, or pixels?

We’re all lost, and you’re looking in the wrong places to find yourself.

24 thoughts on “a brief inquiry into online relationships

  1. Two publications I use to write for have shut down. And being the fool I am, I didn’t screenshot my work. I thought to myself wow, all that effort I put in and it’s gone. But it then made me think about life and how fleeting some things are. You just have to keep going. It’s crazy how hooked people get on a digital app not really real. I like using it, but I don’t want to look back one day and think wow – how much life did I waste? Beautiful post Chloe x

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    1. Oh my goodness, I cannot believe I never saw this?! I’m so sorry. Thank you so much for this, anyway 💙 Couldn’t have said it better myself. Sometimes we just have to let go. Hope you’re well lovely .xx

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  2. One of my fears is that one day the Internet will get shut down and nobody will know how to function without it. How will we make plans with our friends? How will we find places? How will we entertain ourselves on long bus rides? It will be like learning how to function all over again! xx

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  3. THIS!!!! This is so real and honest and my God i’m on a social media break – minus wordpress because these are actually people’s thoughts and worries and HUMAN stuff- but you couldn’t be more right. I’m so over social media and this lie that it projects it’s so fake and surface level and at this point i want to delete it for good!! I thought I was crazy cause everyone is so into it, but i’m glad i’m not the only one

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    1. Angel !!! WordPress is literally the only social media site I use because like you said it’s full of actual HUMAN stuff and therefore a positive place for me to spend my time. I too am so over this fake world and reality we’ve created and I definitely don’t want to live in it. You’re not alone in how you feel! X

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  4. Wow, this is such a beautiful post about our relationship with social media.

    I feel like I’ve been remade into stardust after deactivating Facebook and Instagram. I’ve never been more productive, my mental health is great, and I don’t feel the need to create this “fake reality” for likes and comments. It’s really up to how the user uses social media but I’m happy to be taking a break from it all and focus on myself and things around me.

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    1. Thank you so much! “I feel like I’ve been remade into stardust” – yes !! I feel like that’s exactly what letting go of social media does and it’s so great. I totally agree, it’s all a fake reality and one that I definitely don’t want to live in or contribute to / be a part of, it’s so nice to be in the present moment and be able to fully immerse yourself in the world that’s in front of you .xx


  5. Woah, this is so true and such an issue right now. Whilst I love the internet and online friendships, I often feel the need in those relationships for something deeper. Love love love the stardust/ pixels analogy 😍 xxx

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  6. Incredibly thought-provoking and powerful. You are absolutely right. The internet and social media are powerful things, mainly because we give them so much of our lives and our time. It is scary to imagine if the virtual world just ceased to exist. What would become of us in terms of our relationships? It is something for us to think about.

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    1. Thank you! Listening to Matty talk about his writing process and hearing his thoughts really made me think about my own view of things and I feel like it’s very much in line with this, it definitely is something for us to think about! X

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  7. I like where this is coming from and it has good intentions, but not everyone only thinks about Instagram and likes and follows. Sure, we all spend a lot of time on social media, but people still love real experiences as well – concerts, going to the cinema, sport matches … And people still feel. So not everything is as doomed as it feels 🙂

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    1. Oh I know that! This is just a piece I wrote about our ‘generation’ I guess, obviously I’m very aware that not everyone falls into that category – I know I definitely don’t! Sorry if it sounded like I was generalising everyone and tarnishing them all with the same brush 🙂 x

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  8. Wow this is just such a beautiful post! 💕 You are so right. If you use social media wisely you can get beautiful friendships, inspiration and feel good about yourself. I always love to be real and honest. You are too 💕 We live in such a fake world. It feels like it’s better to hide our feelings than let us feel them. I’m always for feeling and being vulnerable because that’s what makes us real. Love you ❤️

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